If you watched the VH1 show “Tough Love,” you might remember an episode where they participate in a game show called “Cute or Crazy.”

The women on the show, all of whom were having trouble finding a lasting relationship, were judged on certain behaviors they had. The all-male audience decided whether the behavior was cute or just plain crazy.

A few of the behaviors, like being able to Riverdance or having everything face forward in the kitchen cupboards, were harmless and thought to be cute. But some, like one woman wearing a tiara around the house to remind herself that she was a queen or another having pictures of unicorns all over, were deemed as just plain crazy.

Now, I know every woman has certain things she does that she might think are cute, or maybe a little bit quirky-cute. (I personally sometimes break out random bits of ballet dance when I’m bored) But I had to wonder, where is the line between cute and crazy?

Sam Sweeten says what crosses the line isn’t so much the behavior itself, but how often that behavior is performed.

“I think it’s the frequency,” he says. “Cute might happen every few days or so, depending on the action, but crazy always seems to happen all the time.”

But even those cute behaviors can turn to crazy. If there ever is a point where “you start to look for reasons not to stay in the relationship,” Sam says, those behaviors can be turned against you. Of course, any guy who can’t tolerate them probably isn’t the one for you.

So don’t monitor all behavior and cease to engage in any activity or habit that be deemed quirky. Guys do like to see a little weirdness in a girl.

“If a girl has small tic, it makes her seem more real,” says Kevin Kinder. “... I want to see those kinds of things, mostly because it makes me believe she’ll tolerate my own weirdness.”

Just be careful as to how soon you share those “cute” habits of yours. What can seem cute on the fourth or fifth date, when you guys have gotten to know each other a little bit, might come off as crazy on the first date. And you wouldn’t want to scare off someone with a perfectly harmless cute little habit.

– Lacey Storer | Stjoelive staff